Today is the 10th anniversary of the biggest move in my life.
A decade ago, I moved to Petawawa to live with a virtual stranger… I mean, we had spent a total of 21 days together and hours of long distance conversation over the previous 5 months, but still… he was virtually a stranger.
October 12, 2009
Ottawa, Ontario
I’d never lived outside of Nova Scotia.
I’d never lived more than an hour from family or friends.
I’d never lived with a man before… In fact, I’d lived by myself for 7 years at this point.
I’d never been without a job (or two or three).
I’d also never known anyone in the military.
I quite literally had no idea what I was doing.
All I knew was that this guy gave me butterflies and took my breath away with his kisses.
All I knew was that, although I loved my life and my friends, I had been living a “You’ll do” life for far too long.
It was the biggest leap of faith I ever could have taken and if I said it worked out perfectly I’d be lying.
There were many days one of us decided it was enough and I should move home… But luckily never both of us on the same day.
There were times when we finally went to counselling to learn how to be better. And even one time that counselling almost broke us completely. But still, we kept going.
There was even a year that we barely spoke and barely touched and didn’t even feel like we were married, just co-parents and roommates.
Maybe even more than a year.
And I think that's what marriage is for us.
Even when it’s hard, even when it sucks, even when you have no idea what you’re doing, you keep going.
(Disclaimer: some marriages end and that’s what’s best for those people too! This is just me in this moment.)
Two more moves and three kids, it was a leap of faith that worked out.
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